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Reina -30
I have been in a relationship with my husband for 8 years and I have been living with a huge secret. My husband has physically abused me over the years. I want to leave but I’m not sure what I should do? I’m scared to leave and tell my family what has been going on. I have a 4 year old daughter and I don't have any money to walk away.

Reina, it's time to get out! You need to plan this out now and do it while he is out of the house or at work. Your first concern is your safety and your daughters. If he hurts you who knows what he will do to her. You should have told a friend or someone you could trust so they knew what was going on and they could have helped you get through this. A man who hits a woman is no good you don't deserve that and you know it! Please inform someone about this now!!



Here are some Safety tips for you Reina and anyone else in a situation like this!

Safety Plan

• If you are still in the relationship:
  Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs - avoid rooms with no exits (bathroom), or rooms with weapons (kitchen).
  Think about and make a list of safe people to contact.
  Keep change with you at all times.
  Memorize all important numbers.
  Establish a "code word" or "sign" so that family, friends, teachers or co-workers know when to call for help.
  Think about what you will say to your partner if he\she becomes violent. Remember, you have the right to live without fear and violence.


• If you have left the relationship:
  Change your phone number.
  Screen calls.
  Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries or other incidents involving the batterer.
  Change locks, if the batterer has a key.
  Avoid staying alone.
  Plan how to get away if confronted by an abusive partner.
  If you have to meet your partner, do it in a public place.
  Vary your routine.
  Notify school and work contacts.
  Call a shelter for battered women.

If you leave the relationship or are thinking of leaving, you should take important papers and documents with you to enable you to apply for benefits or take legal action.Important papers you should take include social security cards and birth certificates for you and your children, your marriage license, leases or deeds in your name or both yours and your partner's names, your checkbook, your charge cards, bank statements and charge account statements, insurance policies, proof of income for you and your spouse (pay stubs or W-2's), and any documentation of past incidents of abuse (photos, police reports, medical records, etc.)

You can call this hotline 1-800-994-9662



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